ADULTING CAN BE FUN
Let’s be adults! .. Act like a grown up! Or, you are not a child anymore! These are some lines either you have said to somebody or have heard from someone. When we were kids, we wanted to be grownups. In our young adult life everyone wanted us to be responsible, telling us to act our age as we were not kids anymore. Everyone wanted us to be adulting at the best!! But what actually adulting or being an adult means?? Why every kid wants to be an adult? May be being an adult fancies them. I remember when I was in my teen being an adult meant freedom for me, freedom to make your own choice & your own decisions but this all comes with great responsibilities which I hadn’t realized at that time. Now, when I am an adult (been an adult for a very long time now) sometimes I really want to hide somewhere & tell the world I AM DONE BEING AN ADULT!! But it shouldn’t be this way. Why have we made adulthood so complicated??? .. let’s dive into it & try to figure out some difficulties of adulthood & how can we ease this phase of our lives.
What does adulting actually means? Firstly it seems like it’s not a regular word in English language, (it’s a fairly new gerund that stems from the use of word “adult”). I dig it up on net & some of the few definitions I found were that “it’s the practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult”. In one other place it was described as “An informal term to describe behaviour that it seems as responsible & grown up. This behaviour often involves meeting the mundane demands of independent & professional living, such as paying bills & running errands.” We as a society has setup some strictly defined rules for being an adult. However it can be subject & may differ from person to person but loosely its mainly focus to achieve following goals in life like getting through school, having a professional degree, getting that dream job which pays you well, fall in love .. getting married, have kids & then what?! You focus all your young adult life & then adult life pursuing & chasing these set goals to become that perfect responsible adult that you forget to enjoy the process & by the end after achieving all those things, the fatigue of it all makes you tired as hell & then you don’t want to be an adult anymore, suddenly you want an out from all the responsibilities. This should not be the case.
We have to realise that being an adult is a part of growing up & u can’t simply avoid it but you can surely make it fun!! Adulthood means more than paying bills & cooking at home. It means to make decisions which are good for your wellbeing & not the ones which someone expect you to make, it means to accept all your flaws & accept that life is not always rose coloured. It can be tough & you will manage to deal with it .It specially does not mean that you give up all the things which u once loved doing & follow some routine which is making you stressed & bored. Being an adult should not be boring. Let’s change that narrative & be that responsible fun adult which everyone else looks up to & wanted to be like.
In a society that glorifies the carefree culture of youth, we often disregard the search of happiness in our adult life & immerse ourselves in portraying the role of a perfect adult. By doing so, you often forget to enjoy this phase of your life. You start spending your life rather than living it. There cannot be any definition of being a perfect adult & especially there’s a no “how to” guide for it. You can only be a responsible one if you start enjoying this phase of life. It’s not necessary to make drastic changes to your habits, routine or spending a lot of money to enjoy adulthood. Often, we already have everything to enjoy life. It’s just a matter of priorities. So my dear friends do make your job, responsibilities, & duties your priority but don’t forget to add an element of enjoyment to it otherwise you will be, at some time compelled to say “ADULTING SUCKS!!”
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Hello again my dear readers.. I know, I know I’m being late again although I’ve told in my last post that I will be posting regularly here but as the saying goes better late than never 😉 so here I am! but on a serious note, I thought that I would have ample of time to write during my summer break (yes guys! I’m on a break.. Perks of working as a teacher) as I’m not travelling this summer but but life don’t follow any plans or should I say, I suck at planning. I would rather like to take one day at a time. It basically is what makes me Happy!! .. So, although I had planned to be consistent on this space but things happen & I got busy in other things which were exciting & brought me happiness. Yes!! I think you are going to read the word “Happiness” a lot of time during this blog post as I have decided to write about it today. Haan jii tou come tell me what gives you Happiness?? .. It’s such a vast topic but today we will talk about what is happiness? & how to enjoy the little things in your life which can give you true joy! (Ahh! choti choti khushiyan!)
Happiness is a word which seems short & sweet but it holds a lot of meaning in everybody’s life. Everybody wants to be happy. This is the one thing which everyone wants in abundance in their lives. But how can you measure happiness? Which things bring you happiness? & how can you boost your happiness?! Sadly, we spend a bigger chunk of our time thinking or I would rather say over thinking about happiness that we actually play part in decreasing our quality of happiness. Yes! dear readers we humans have made “being happy” difficult & laborious. I believe that happiness should be simple & easily achievable!! How can you really make it simpler & satisfying, let’s talk about it ..
We have always read that try finding joy in the simpler things, like blooming flowers, looking at clear skies, in rain, a peaceful evening, a good night sleep & the list can go on & on & on .. but here’s the moment of truth .. are we really doing it? Are we really enjoying these little things in our lives? We the people are always chasing some dreams in our life, every single time & in doing that we are neglecting the small moments which are truly pleasing to us! It’s ok to set up goals in fact you should always have a goal in life to chase but in doing so don’t forget to appreciate those little moments of your life which will be good memories for a life time! Now what actually is happiness?? You can google it if you want but I think that Happiness is a state of mind!! & it can be different for person to person. The things which brings joy to me, might not be important to you .. so my friends go out & try to find YOUR own happiness. Try to observe & look around things, events or people that bring you happiness. Build your own happy tribe!! If u can’t than you can always take help of our good old friend Mr.Google. There’s a whole list of things / activities online which are scientifically proven to bring happiness to you. But again being happy is no rocket science, try to find it in a simple cup of tea, a talk to your best friend, help out a colleague, go on that long overdue road trip you might be planning & postponing it for some odd reasons, see your family spend time with them, indulge in some social work or the easiest of them all, arrange that wardrobe of yours (the end result of it will surely bring you a lot of happiness 🙂 )
There are so many simpler things that can actually benefit us mentally & physically! So, girls & boys let’s uncomplicated our lives, let’s stop making “being happy” a difficult & complex procedure. Try to smile often, don’t stress on little things (stress is part of life, it’ll be there in some way or other .. let’s try to deal with it head on!), take pride in what you have & what you do. Most importantly try to bring happiness in others life, in return you WILL find your own happiness! Always remember YOU are in control of the choices you make in your life. Choose wisely!! There are many blogs & articles online .. go & read them all, take info from them as a guide to live a happier & more fulfilling life. I had read it somewhere that “Nobody has seen tomorrow, today is what we have .. let’s make our today happy. Let’s be happy NOW!!”
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Hey!! .. hello everyone, It’s been a while that I’ve not used my blogging space at all. Despite wanting to write & having so many ideas to write about, I had not been able to even open my blog at all since my last post, which I agree is not good at all. What to say .. life has been a roller coaster these past few months with Ramadan & children’s final exams, Eid .. and the End of the year work (or maybe I was being Me .. that is lazy ! ) .. yeah I know the year is far from ending right now but being a teacher this time of the year we are busy with winding up our class rooms, all the paper work, packing and shifting of things from school to home. I tell you this feels like winding up your home. You know that feeling when you feel that you are packing away your memories in a box. All the hard work we’ve put up in setting a classroom & all the materials we’ve created for our learners. All those memories.. all the happy ones, which felt like your success & all those as well where you felt exhausted & can’t wait for the day to be over .. Those all memories making you sad & happy at the same time. Ahhh!!! People it’s the emotional time of the year where we let go of the kids with whom we had spent the whole year with .. or am I the only one to feel that way??!! .. as I am the emotional types!! .. argghh!! Too much emotions going on right now .. If any teachers reading this please tell me I’m not alone feeling this!!
Anyhoos!!! .. I’m back & I intend to be a regular here on this space (if I’m able to stop being lazy) .. Since the summer holidays have already started and parents are already getting anxious to prevent their children from boredom.. Yes, Already! .. But what actually this fancy word “BOREDOM” means? … Come let’s talk about boredom today in this blogpost. Boredom cannot effect children only but adults can also be get struck with it, quite frankly I’m a little scared also of sitting at home for two months & facing boredom but people at this time of the year I can say that, I AM READY TO BE BORED!!! .. This boredom can actually be good for our mental health .. How? .. Come let’s talk! .. In today’s busy world, this boredom is seen as a very bad thing, especially for children. We want our children to be occupied every time, which is actually not a bad thing to do but letting them being bored for some time or hours of the day can actually be beneficial for them. How? .. Hmmm … chalo thora google kertay hain (let’s do a little bit of google) .. Research has showed that being occupied every time does not allow enough “Child Led” play times for the kids. Now what is child led or child initiated play? It means that the children decides what to play, how to play & who to play with. This helps the child in their decision making skills & is very important for their mental and social development. Boredom can also give the children opportunities to think creatively & build their sense of discovery as well as imagination. It gives them the opportunity to think out of the box, to make new friends. They can not only figure out the plans to get rid of this boredom but are able to execute those plans as well. This can be of great for their decision making skills. So, let our children be bored for a change!!
All these benefits of boredom will be applicable only if we as adults directs our children towards good & better options. If we will leave them on their own, this boredom will definitely cause some negative impacts on their mental & emotional health .For example; children as well as we adults have this tendency of doing things which can be harmful for us, when we are bored such as too much exposure to screens (be it your mobile phones or kid’s gaming consoles) can cause many negative impacts on both children as well as adults. That is why it’s important to not let the span of boredom be long enough that kids indulge in negative things .. Balance is the key people, bring balance to our lives!!
SO, let’s make this boredom part of our developmental routine, let’s channel our thoughts and our free time into creating something good & meaningful. I had read somewhere on the net, that you get the best ideas when your mind is empty and resting!! .. Come On, let’s make that cup of tea (or coffee), play some music & think our boredom away!!!!
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