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ADULTING CAN BE FUN
Let’s be adults! .. Act like a grown up! Or, you are not a child anymore! These are some lines either you have said to somebody or have heard from someone. When we were kids, we wanted to be grownups. In our young adult life everyone wanted us to be responsible, telling us to act our age as we were not kids anymore. Everyone wanted us to be adulting at the best!! But what actually adulting or being an adult means?? Why every kid wants to be an adult? May be being an adult fancies them. I remember when I was in my teen being an adult meant freedom for me, freedom to make your own choice & your own decisions but this all comes with great responsibilities which I hadn’t realized at that time. Now, when I am an adult (been an adult for a very long time now) sometimes I really want to hide somewhere & tell the world I AM DONE BEING AN ADULT!! But it shouldn’t be this way. Why have we made adulthood so complicated??? .. let’s dive into it & try to figure out some difficulties of adulthood & how can we ease this phase of our lives.

What does adulting actually means? Firstly it seems like it’s not a regular word in English language, (it’s a fairly new gerund that stems from the use of word “adult”). I dig it up on net & some of the few definitions I found were that “it’s the practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult”. In one other place it was described as “An informal term to describe behaviour that it seems as responsible & grown up. This behaviour often involves meeting the mundane demands of independent & professional living, such as paying bills & running errands.” We as a society has setup some strictly defined rules for being an adult. However it can be subject & may differ from person to person but loosely its mainly focus to achieve following goals in life like getting through school, having a professional degree, getting that dream job which pays you well, fall in love .. getting married, have kids & then what?! You focus all your young adult life & then adult life pursuing & chasing these set goals to become that perfect responsible adult that you forget to enjoy the process & by the end after achieving all those things, the fatigue of it all makes you tired as hell & then you don’t want to be an adult anymore, suddenly you want an out from all the responsibilities. This should not be the case.

We have to realise that being an adult is a part of growing up & u can’t simply avoid it but you can surely make it fun!! Adulthood means more than paying bills & cooking at home. It means to make decisions which are good for your wellbeing & not the ones which someone expect you to make, it means to accept all your flaws & accept that life is not always rose coloured. It can be tough & you will manage to deal with it .It specially does not mean that you give up all the things which u once loved doing & follow some routine which is making you stressed & bored. Being an adult should not be boring. Let’s change that narrative & be that responsible fun adult which everyone else looks up to & wanted to be like.

In a society that glorifies the carefree culture of youth, we often disregard the search of happiness in our adult life & immerse ourselves in portraying the role of a perfect adult. By doing so, you often forget to enjoy this phase of your life. You start spending your life rather than living it. There cannot be any definition of being a perfect adult & especially there’s a no “how to” guide for it. You can only be a responsible one if you start enjoying this phase of life. It’s not necessary to make drastic changes to your habits, routine or spending a lot of money to enjoy adulthood. Often, we already have everything to enjoy life. It’s just a matter of priorities. So my dear friends do make your job, responsibilities, & duties your priority but don’t forget to add an element of enjoyment to it otherwise you will be, at some time compelled to say “ADULTING SUCKS!!”

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Hello again my dear readers.. I know, I know I’m being late again although I’ve told in my last post that I will be posting regularly here but as the saying goes better late than never 😉 so here I am! but on a serious note, I thought that I would have ample of time to write during my summer break (yes guys! I’m on a break.. Perks of working as a teacher) as I’m not travelling this summer but but life don’t follow any plans or should I say, I suck at planning. I would rather like to take one day at a time. It basically is what makes me Happy!! .. So, although I had planned to be consistent on this space but things happen & I got busy in other things which were exciting & brought me happiness. Yes!! I think you are going to read the word “Happiness” a lot of time during this blog post as I have decided to write about it today. Haan jii tou come tell me what gives you Happiness?? .. It’s such a vast topic but today we will talk about what is happiness? & how to enjoy the little things in your life which can give you true joy! (Ahh! choti choti khushiyan!)
Happiness is a word which seems short & sweet but it holds a lot of meaning in everybody’s life. Everybody wants to be happy. This is the one thing which everyone wants in abundance in their lives. But how can you measure happiness? Which things bring you happiness? & how can you boost your happiness?! Sadly, we spend a bigger chunk of our time thinking or I would rather say over thinking about happiness that we actually play part in decreasing our quality of happiness. Yes! dear readers we humans have made “being happy” difficult & laborious. I believe that happiness should be simple & easily achievable!! How can you really make it simpler & satisfying, let’s talk about it ..

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We have always read that try finding joy in the simpler things, like blooming flowers, looking at clear skies, in rain, a peaceful evening, a good night sleep & the list can go on & on & on .. but here’s the moment of truth .. are we really doing it? Are we really enjoying these little things in our lives? We the people are always chasing some dreams in our life, every single time & in doing that we are neglecting the small moments which are truly pleasing to us! It’s ok to set up goals in fact you should always have a goal in life to chase but in doing so don’t forget to appreciate those little moments of your life which will be good memories for a life time! Now what actually is happiness?? You can google it if you want but I think that Happiness is a state of mind!! & it can be different for person to person. The things which brings joy to me, might not be important to you .. so my friends go out & try to find YOUR own happiness. Try to observe & look around things, events or people that bring you happiness. Build your own happy tribe!! If u can’t than you can always take help of our good old friend Mr.Google. There’s a whole list of things / activities online which are scientifically proven to bring happiness to you. But again being happy is no rocket science, try to find it in a simple cup of tea, a talk to your best friend, help out a colleague, go on that long overdue road trip you might be planning & postponing it for some odd reasons, see your family spend time with them, indulge in some social work or the easiest of them all, arrange that wardrobe of yours (the end result of it will surely bring you a lot of happiness 🙂 )
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There are so many simpler things that can actually benefit us mentally & physically! So, girls & boys let’s uncomplicated our lives, let’s stop making “being happy” a difficult & complex procedure. Try to smile often, don’t stress on little things (stress is part of life, it’ll be there in some way or other .. let’s try to deal with it head on!), take pride in what you have & what you do. Most importantly try to bring happiness in others life, in return you WILL find your own happiness! Always remember YOU are in control of the choices you make in your life. Choose wisely!! There are many blogs & articles online .. go & read them all, take info from them as a guide to live a happier & more fulfilling life. I had read it somewhere that “Nobody has seen tomorrow, today is what we have .. let’s make our today happy. Let’s be happy NOW!!”